1:08 p.m.
Last night, I dreamt that I walked in an Emergency Room, opened a cabinet, took out a bottle of pain pills, threw back my head, dumped its entire contents in to my mouth. In my dream, the pills did their job – a growing numbness and then I was floating away on a literal cloud. It was cloud made of pillows and pills.
I also dreamed that I was “Me” – the super Me that takes charge, the Me that is going to save the world, one word at at time.
In my dream (the second half, the better half), I am a famous writer and am about to tour Amsterdam. Bear and I are walking arm-in-arm through Schiphol airport. We go through a tunnel that empties out in to a buzzing lobby filled with things I’ve never seen before although we have things just like them at home – food, chairs, people. Everything is the same, but a little bit different. Our feet barely tough the ground in that way you walk when you’re in love.
There is a lot of yellow.
People whisper as we pass. They have no idea who we are, but they know we are somebody. I lock my arm on to Bear’s as if it were a life preserver, push my shoulders back. I feel amazing. Better than I did in the first act of my dream – the drug part.
As we walk to the car waiting at the curb to take us to the American Hotel (in college, we once stayed there for two weeks straight thanks to Bear’s student loan and a few pounds of pot he and his roommate/travel companion grew), I stop at a newsstand to buy any English language paper I can get my hands on. Bear laughs as I make my way to the counter with a towering stack of periodicals and Haribo candy.
“Are you sure you got everything?” Bear says with a relaxed smile, the one I love to see.
I look up and there is a shelf filled with books. Big ones, little ones, purple covers, black covers, pale and bright. Then there is mine. My book. With its yellow and orange cover. A cartoon drawing of a woman boxer, blond hair falling over a smile with one front tooth knocked out. My book.
“Nope, I’ve got everything.”
I dream almost every night. I remember bits and pieces of almost every dream I’ve had (I think. Who’s to say I don’t just dream the same dream every night and just remember bits and pieces one, super-detailed dream?)
I woke up wanting pills.
I woke up knowing that it was only a want – an urge. I woke up knowing the second half of my dream was also a want, but a dream, a desire, a hunger to be better, not an urge to be less.
I can want both, but only have one.
1:35 p.m.
Today is Bear’s day off.
We had a meeting at the local preschool at 9:30 a.m. Bunny was crazy about the place and the other kids liked her. She walked right in to the classroom and started asking the other kids if they would play with her. The director of the school, seemed impressed with her confidence.
We now have a school for her, within walking distance since I don’t have a car during the day. Two days a week for five hours a day.
The cost, though. Where are we going to get the money?
Usually, something as simple as low funds in our bank account is enough to get me going – wanting pills. So, money issues combined with waking up with cravings is a perfect mix for a day of searching for a fix.
Then I think of this morning – I was bright-eyed, my skin had color and no pick-marks, my clothes were clean, my hair was brushed and shining. I was there for my daughter as a mother should be. I was normal, asked appropriate questions and was able to catch myself when I started to talk too much.
I’m realizing one of the reasons I take pills is to numb my personality. Sometimes, I laugh too loud or ask too many questions. So, I take pills to tame myself.
And once I trap myself inside of the cage that is addiction, it is feels impossible to get out.
When you’re in your sickness, actively using your drug of choice, you wonder how you ever lived any way else. You wonder how you can ever do the simplest things again without being high.
Today, I visited a preschool for my daughter, we got doughnuts and we took the kids to the park. I use to plan when I would take my pills around events such as these.
It is so cliché to say, but once you stop running from the person you are meant to be, things start to fall in to place.